Jean Louise Winter
I got blocked on TikTok
A few days ago, I reacted to a TikTok video. It was shot in a high angle selfie mode, showing a girl confidently strutting down the street, looking cool while playing with her hair and black cat-eye sunglasses. The text on the video read: "When I have so many dates this week that I don't need to get any groceries" and the sound that was playing was the very short line "I don't really care" of Rihanna's Who's That Chick?.
I don't know how you'd interpret this video. My first reaction was honestly disgust.
Maybe I'm too misanthropic and cynical to give people the benefit of the doubt, but for me, the video basically said "I'm just going on dates to get free meals and I can because I'm the hottest bitch that has ever graced humanity with her existence". And so I couldn't help myself. I just had to react to the video and point out this girl's moral questionability.
The people who know me know that I have absolutely no filter when I'm voicing my opinion. Or in general when I'm speaking. I mostly think only after saying or doing something. Besides, I absolutely HATE overly political correctness. And so to my shame, I have to confess that I basically called that girl a whore. In a classy, concealed way though. But I guess it was against the community guidelines. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Obviously, I have absolutely no problem when people get paid for certain, affectionate services, as long as all parties involved are aware of the modalities. And even though I like to make stupid jokes about my lack of perspective for my own future, saying that I won't need to worry because I'll just marry an obscenely rich dude, I'm definitely not for taking advantage of people.
Of course, I received comments like "Maybe she paid for her meals" and "Women shouldn't attack other women", to which my reaction is a major eye-roll. I mean, come on. I'm also sure she felt a real connection with every single person she met during this week. Probably all soulmates and twin flames.
Firstly, her flex definitely wasn't about being such a bad bitch who pays for all her shit. Otherwise, she would have chosen a very different wording in her text. And secondly, when I point out people's shitty behavior, I'm not attacking them for their gender or their identity or whatever, but for being shitty. Should be a no-brainer.
If you really feel the need to push your ego by spending valuable time with someone you'd maybe wouldn't meet otherwise, just so that you can get free stuff, at least don't brag about it. Shut your fucking mouth. But bragging about living a parasitic lifestyle and trying to glorify it just puts a wedge between men and women. For example, I love when a guy takes me out and offers to pay for dinner, just because I very much appreciate the nice gesture. And it also shows a certain commitment. If a guy pays for your dinner, there's a higher chance that he's not seeing a bunch of other girls besides you. Unfortunately, it seems that more and more guys get the feeling that some girls are just using them, and so they of course don't want to take the risk to invest. Not their money, but even less their time and energy. No wonder chivalry is slowly dying.
As for being blocked on TikTok, I definitely won't miss the platform. Even if I'll be able to access my account again, I don't think I'll do much with it. I don't get what the deal with all these ridiculous dances is and it'll be one less thing to distract me from actual life.